Month: October 2020

Going unnoticed

I’ve given this way to much thought over the past few months and I’ve come to the conclusion that going unnoticed is not only undesirable but its also bloody difficult for a number of reasons.

First off, going unnoticed depends on what you’re wearing. You arent going to go unnoticed in 4 inch heels and a bright red dress!

You might do at a drag queen conference but in the middle of a small English town then you are going to stand out like a sore thumb. This however might just be what you want 😀

Secondly, going unnoticed is quite difficult especially if you’re Trans as you probably dress better than most women dress on a day to day basis. (I’m writing this while sat in my local Cafe having breakfast and of the three women in in here I am the best dressed. One is wearing her pyjamas (yep!), one is wearing joggers and a top and i’m wearing a fluffy pink sweater and a denim skirt).

I like to make an effort to get dressed everyday and lots of women don’t. Same with men I know. Not being rude Ladies and Gentlemen, just a stark observation.

Thirdly, going unnoticed is hard if you have more prominent male features. For example, a pronounced adam’s apple, wide shoulder or large hands/feet.

Again I am quite lucky in this regard and have small hands and feet and no noticable Adam’s apple.

Most time I dont want to go un-noticed.

Let me explain this, as this is where it gets deep.

I’ve invested a lot of time, effort and money in my appearance and I want to be noticed for my style and appearance. I dont necassarily want to be noticed as “a man in a dress” and thats why I spend time and effort on my appearance.

My make up is stop on everytime I leave the house and I dress nicely. Not, Over the top.

I am also not after the adorning glances of men, or women for that matter. I want to be noticed for my style and look and no other reason. I want to engage with people and talk to people. If I went unnoticed this is difficult.

I also dress for the occasion. Night out in Manchester or a special event and I want to be noticed. Work in Macclesfield and i’m dressing down a bit to blend in. However not to much as I dont want to be a wall flower.

Its bloody hard to go unnoticed so go with what you are comfy with, dress how you want and dont let anyone tell you otherwise,


A lot to think about

I have a lot to think about as I transition and the further I get down the line the more questions I get, which ultimately require answers.

My friends are fab and although they accept me for who I am they also ask me questions about what I am doing and the journey ahead. Sometimes they ask questions I havent even thought about like a second conciousness.

I welcome their questions as they make me think and also seek out questions and answers about what lies ahead.

Just this week I’ve sat with my friend and discussed what I am going to do and whether I fully transition. “What happens to your bits, and do you really want a pair of boobs?”

I’ve spoken to my counselor and there is a large number of options available to me on the road ahead. I’ve thought long and hard and I know that I want to be female, although I know I will never truly be, it’s that outwards view that I need to peruse for my own mental stability but I know that no matter what I do I truly can never be female.

The look to me is important and presenting as a female is what I seek.

I know thay I’ve only just started down this road and my doctor has been supportive and I’ve had numerous tests both physically and mentally, and I know there will be many more.

Untimately, I’m sure there will be loads more questions from medical professionals and my friends but until I reach those points on my life I cannot answer questions I do not yet know, or yet have even thought about.

I have many friends who are at certain points on the same road less travelled but their journey is different to mine, some drastically and others similar. Again their experiences being questions and answers but what they explain to me and their experiences are duly noted and help me as I persue my life.

Also their companionship fills my heart with joy, love and friendship which at this stage on my life has been extremely welcome. The trans community have welcomed me with open arms as have the LGBTQ+ people I meet on a daily basis.

The village in Manchester and Leeds have been awesome to me and even when I go out alone or am sat waiting for friends, those in the village make sure I am not alone.

I know I have a lot to think about and the more I think about it the more questions I need answering.

I wish there was a big book of transitioning which was written just for me but until that time I need to write my own story.

Watch this space!

Eastern Bloc Records Cafe, best coffee I’ve had in Manchester

I’m in Manchester again for a meeting this morning and after the meeting I went for a walk round the Northern Quarter to do some street photography and have a spot of lunch with what could possibly be the best coffee i’ve had in Manchester city centre, probably!

This was at Eastern Block Records Cafe on Stevenson Square. I remember going in here at dinnertime when I worked at Ocean Software in the 1990’s and spending many a queen pound on white label 12 inch singles. Many of which I still own.

At the moment the Northern Quarter is mainly pedestrainised due to the Coronabollocks pandemic. So I’m sat outside and having a coffee, a bit of food and a smoke. It’s quite pleasant.

It feels quite surreal though as the city is very quiet, especially when you know how busy Manchester can be.

Anyway, Eastern Block Records Cafe has possibly the best Coffee i’ve had in Manchester and the full English breakfast was pretty darn good as well. Prices are spot on. See linky above for latest pricelist.

Off back into Manchester in a weeks time so maybe a repeat performance is in order. Well thats if Boris the Berk doesnt force the city into another lockdown!

If you haven’t been to the Northern Quarter of Manchester recently I can really recommend you go and have a walk round. The area is alive and kicking and the street art in the northern quarter is bloody amazing. I’ve been about a dozen time in the past few months and am still seeing new artwork all the time.


Pink Hair

I went to Cornwall in the first week of October and before I went I dyed my hair pink. Dont like the dark pink but now its had a few washes I like the light pink colour.

Its Schwar0zkopf Live shocking pink 093

What do you all think?

Botallack Crowns, Mine building at Botallack, Cornwall

Botallack Crowns, Mine building at Botallack, Cornwall

Below are 2 images of the Botallack Crowns Mine at Botallack, near St Just in Cornwall. The first image was taken in October 2020 and the second image, Photography unknown, was taken circa 1860’s and shows the mine in its hayday.

For those that dont know the Botallack Crowns Mine at Botallack are Cornish Tim Mines, the Building on the left housed a pumping engine which removed water from the mine, while the building on the right housed a lifting engine which was used to bring materials and transport men in and out of the mine,

These days the buildings stand on the edge of the cliffs defiant at whatever weather the Celtic Sea can throw at them and on the days I was there in October there were 40-50mph winds and I have been there before when its been to windy to hold a camera to take pictures of waves rising over the higher of the two buildings.

The second image shows all the workings and buildings which were on the site in the mines hayday and shows just how extensive these buildings were. This photo is available at Geevor mine. If you are interested in Tin Mining or mining heritage in Cornwall it is well worth a visit.

Botallack Crowns Mine
Original Photographer unknown

Location Map

Photo date: 1st October 2020

Photography copyright: Mikki Tiamo / Unknown

St Michaels Mount, Marazion, Cornwall

St Michaels Mount, Marazion, Cornwall

I go to Cornwall a lot as its my soul food place and one of the place I like to visit is St Michaels Mount, Marazion.

For those who don’t know, St Michaels Mount is tidal island in Mounts Bay at Marazion, close to Penzance. At low tide a causeway is exposed which allows vehicular and pedestrain access to the island.

The castle on the island is the home of the St Aubyn family who have a long lease of the castle which is now owned and managed by the National Trust.

This photo was taken just before low tide and as such you can see the causeway is still partly covered by water.

If you want to visit St Michaels Mount then at the moment the island is closed sue to Covid restrictions, October 2020, but I am sure it will be open soon.

St Michael Mount, Marazion as seen from the causeway

Location Map

Photo date: 3rd October 2020

Photography copyright: Mikki Tiamo

Scillonian 3, the Sciliy isles ferry

Scillonian 3, the Sciliy isles ferry from Penzance to St Mary’s

Picture if the Scillonian 3 ferry which is the main Sciliy isles passenger ferry from Penzance to St Mary’s I’m the Sciliy isles.

Hee she is in Penzance harbour sat on the bottom at low tide.

There were 50mph winds a choppy seas on the 2nd October 2020 and perhaps because of this she was moored here. She is usually moored against the main harbour sea wall.

Location Map

Photo date: 2nd October 2020

Photography copyright: Mikki Tiamo

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